tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627131048738794493.post2527127562053360639..comments2023-11-02T21:17:32.780+08:00Comments on a hidden slave: Not good and a blast from the pasta hidden slavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16284790679445055018noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627131048738794493.post-47936333808019764982011-11-14T23:25:08.821+08:002011-11-14T23:25:08.821+08:00Yes... you absolutely may use my comment... and pr...Yes... you absolutely may use my comment... and pretend it's your own... <br />There are so many of us here... standing behind you, from afar, but behind you nonetheless. You are an incredibly strong woman, and deep inside, you know that. This is your opportunity to prove to yourself just how strong you CAN be!!!<br /><br />SBSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627131048738794493.post-15903873337729251672011-11-14T21:41:32.204+08:002011-11-14T21:41:32.204+08:00sin, thank you for your comment. Its only when som...sin, thank you for your comment. Its only when someone points stuff out to you that you realise what is obvious, so thank you. I am ok , in the greater scheme of things.<br /><br />nancy, thank you too. I think your word "hopeful" is what most made me think about your comment. You know , when i sit back and look at this mess, I am, I am hopeful, and that has to be good. I just hadnt thought i was...so thank you.<br /><br />blossom, mixed emotions are all there in front of me, and the whole"freaky thing" is as you put it ....freaky. Thanks for you kind words and support. I rang my dad, and today he knew straight away who I was.....he cannot be far away really when he is in my head and my heart.<br /><br />aisha, oh yes , you do. I agree. I have for along time thought that we make decisions that are right for that time and so therefore they MUST be the right decision, as we have made it, if that makes sense. So I guess the same must apply to feeling the feeling we feel. <br />That was really clear in my head when I thought it, I hope it makes sense on the screen. <br />Thanks aisha.<br /><br />anonymous...thank you for your comments and support, and you are right about betrayal and going backwards too. <br /><br />Sbs...thank you. Your line.."he made the decision 9 months ago" glared at me from the screen. it was like a lightening strike....please can i use it in my next conversation with him...just before i pull the band aid off? <br /><br />Thank you all for your comments. it was lovely to come home from a hard day at work and see that you had all taken the time to leave me a messgae. as you can see from today's post(14.11) I am back to my normal self again...your pep talks are working:)a hidden slavehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284790679445055018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627131048738794493.post-34754268815509978532011-11-14T09:33:45.908+08:002011-11-14T09:33:45.908+08:00I am so sorry you're having to deal with this ...I am so sorry you're having to deal with this struggle.... but know you're not alone. At least not in cyber-space! There are many of us who are in your corner, and willing to lend an ear when you need to chat, or a hand when your spirit needs a boost. The crappy part is getting through the rough part and seeing the beauty of YOU on the other side! You need to see your Dad... take the time for the both of you and make that happen. As far as He goes? He made the decision over 9 months ago.... and now he has realized it was the wrong one. Too bad for Him. Too bad for the both of you... but you have your limits, and this crossed the line. Pull the band-aid off quickly. Yes, it hurts, but the faster it's done, the sooner the healing can begin.<br /><br />Hugs to you through space!<br />SBSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627131048738794493.post-71556664591945911562011-11-14T05:09:53.141+08:002011-11-14T05:09:53.141+08:00I don't think you can go backwards. You can...I don't think you can go backwards. You can't go from being a slave to being "normal" with the same person. If you cannot submit to him (and in my place I would not after that kind of betrayal), then It seems really that it is over. What does a long extended good-bye do except add a longer period of pain and uncertainty. If you are able to travel, go see your fatherAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627131048738794493.post-51188507254648604792011-11-14T04:57:09.889+08:002011-11-14T04:57:09.889+08:00Dear HS,
You know me, i think how you feel is how...Dear HS,<br /><br />You know me, i think how you feel is how you feel, and you're exactly where you need to be, right now.<br /><br />Nice that your friend showed up. You'll know the right thing to do.<br /><br />Sending hugs,<br /><br />aishaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627131048738794493.post-3991806093331505852011-11-14T01:56:36.373+08:002011-11-14T01:56:36.373+08:00you will get there hs even with all the mixed emot...you will get there hs even with all the mixed emotions you are feeling, but time will heal. im sorry to hear that you wont get to see your dad being so far away.<br /><br />you will always have your good and bad days hun, and how nice of your friend to contact you, wierd him thinking that all was maybe not well with you, freaky that..lol.<br /><br />take care, we are all here for you as much as we can be.<br /><br />blossom xblossomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18233213834265183615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627131048738794493.post-23645221095172453782011-11-14T00:04:33.043+08:002011-11-14T00:04:33.043+08:00I agree.. although you don't feel it or see it...I agree.. although you don't feel it or see it today, you are on the way.<br />It is so hard when you are in the middle of things, to see where you are. <br /><br />You've made huge progress even if you may not feel it. <br />You are still hurt and angry but you're also hopeful and much stronger than before.<br /><br />I am so sorry about your father; that pain is one of the hardest to bear. <br />My heart goes out to you. All the best to you.nbshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12817508431335142670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627131048738794493.post-37803211076555230232011-11-13T22:55:32.320+08:002011-11-13T22:55:32.320+08:00It does sound like you are on the way to being oka...It does sound like you are on the way to being okay. It sounds like you aren't all or nothing, not black or white. It sounds like you are processing what happened to you, and dealing with it all pretty well. That you are kind of angry, but able to see what was good, to see what you want, what's good for you, and to explore some new possibilities. It all sounds very very healthy. Good luck.<br />-sinsinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00082648132476803815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627131048738794493.post-36289503031311072502011-11-13T22:00:24.881+08:002011-11-13T22:00:24.881+08:00abby, thank you. Sometimes I think I am doing fin...abby, thank you. Sometimes I think I am doing fine and then a day like today hits. <br />I wish I could see my dad, I really do, but he is 4 planes away. Today is a special day for him, it being Remembrance day in Uk, him being ex Army, I just wish I could be with him.<br />Thank you for your support and encouragement. I like the thought of an open window, you never know what will blow in<br />HSxxa hidden slavehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284790679445055018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3627131048738794493.post-8591426053183253992011-11-13T21:49:25.223+08:002011-11-13T21:49:25.223+08:00Actually, I think you are on the road to OK....not...Actually, I think you are on the road to OK....not that it is an easy road to travel. Be kind to yourself, go see your dad, you do not want to live with regretting not having seen him. And sometimes......when you shut one door, you have to open a window to get some fresh air...(I know I re-wrote that one). Hugs...You are stong and getting stonger. abbyabbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17208861579579989418noreply@blogger.com