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Tuesday 5 July 2011

falling out with a friend suck

Yesterday at work there was an incident, a misunderstanding. Someone thought that I had kept something from them , which was not he case at all, I had not discussed it in detail with them until it was confirmed, and as it wasn't confirmed I didn't discuss it.
Anyway, the other person went into orbit about it, threw a complete hissy fit and refused to talk to me, I think she felt betrayed. This really was not the case. i called her and then realising she was so upset went to see her, but to no avail, she refused to talk, so I was left feeling hurt, bruised, misunderstood, unjustly accused of something and just generally very shitty. She is my friend, and I think she probably feels the same. She ignored me all day.....her choice not mine, I sent her two text, both ignored. I still had work to do last night, and all I wanted to do was talk to my owner, but it took another two hours before I could call him.

I hate arguments, I hate conflict that is so unproductive and in fact destructive, that does nothing except leave people bruised and shaky............that was how I ended up, sobbing.

I ranted and raved about the injustice of it all, I swore, cussed, bemoaned my fate, and he let me rant on for about 20 minutes or so, he calmed me talked to me, reasoned with me and off I went again.

When I was calmer he sent me to bed, and I tossed and turned all night, no sleep, not a wink...........hasn't made coping with today easier...................I was so glad he was there every time I looked he was there, even though he told me to keep my eyes shut.

What a crap day.

8 comments:

  1. Sorry you are having a hard time.
    Feel better...hugs

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  2. It will resolve with time. Let her process.

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  3. Misunderstandings do suck! I hope that your friend is calmer today and willing to listen and be open minded about what happened. Best of luck.

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  4. His slave, I'm sorry...

    "...every time I looked he was there, even though he told me to keep my eyes shut." So sweet...

    K

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  5. Hi Hs sorry your having a bad time, but he is there supporting you through this, how lovely is that. Your friend will come round in her own time.

    Hugs
    blossom xx

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  6. I'm sorry you're having a hard time too, of course. And delighted that he's there for you.

    It's unfortunate that your friend's angry - but there may be some consolation in knowing that you didn't do anything to harm her?

    hugs,

    aisha

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  7. Dear All, sorry I have been so busy I havent had time to respond to your comments , but I have read them. I have had two sleepless nights with lots of tears, but its all resolved now, thank you all so much for your support , reassurances and good wishes..things are ok.
    Hsxx

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  8. oh I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you and your friend found sensible way to openly discuss this misunderstanding. your friendship is what matters. All the best x

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