So now I do need some help...what do I do now?
I didnt have access to my phone for a few days and this is what I got when I turned it on.................
You better call me now....
U had better call me now. Dont push me.
I dont know whats going on. I cant get my emails. I wont have you telling me you wont talk to me. Remember I know all about you. I expect you to call me. I know something is on your mind so you will talk to me or I will be the bastard you know I can be.
Pick the fucking phone up now
I wont call as I know you are in a meeting. Do I need to point out how well I know you and what I can do. So please call me as soon as you are free no matter the time. Dont think I will go away.
Ok...so now what?
I called him, I spoke to him and told him he had threatened me, he told me he loves me. So now what? I do not want him to threaten me, I do not want him to carry out my threats, what the hell do I do now.
hs- DO you really believe all of a sudden he isn't get his emails? Is he saying that he didn't get the one you wrote to him telling him you know everything? My first response when I read this was.. "CALL THE POLICE" .. I don't care if he is/was your "DOM" or whatever- no woman should ever be threatened with violence.
ReplyDeleteHowever- you are the only one who knows the true dynamic of you/him and whether he is just playing with you or not. I am sorry he continues to push at your heartstrings....
He is a bastard. Not sure what else to say... I am hoping other sub sisters with more experience can add their thoughts.
~faithful
faitful...don't panic...he cant hurt me physically or I would have called them....I am 3 planes away,,,,I am safe.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that is what he means , about e mails...but I haven't asked...yet
I think its a threat to blow my cover, to out me,,,,which would end my career, i would be deported from far away land...the whole hog.
Thanks for your concern and advice, please dont worry...I am about as physically safe I could possibly be.
Hsxx
hs- i am glad you are safe.. but for him to even threathen to "out you" which would mean that you would lose your job, be deported..... not sure I understand why he would do that to someone he says he loves.
ReplyDeleteI know you are connected to him.. regardless of the baby/woman etc.... He is reaching out because you are letting him in.
If it was me- I would not answer the phone, erase him from my memory and move forward with my life... but that is ME.. not you.
Only you can decide if there is a place for him and what that place is.
You are the one in control.. remember that.. not him. slave or not a slave.
~faithful
Do whatever it tKes to protect yourself! Change locks, passwords, account information etc. Even change your patterns of daily life if necessary. Your safety is priority.
ReplyDeleteHugs! Thoughts! And well wishes!
I wish I knew what advice to give in this situation, I really do.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds a little frightening, but then I don't know if his threats are based on the dynamic that you had or if he is actually threatening to out you. It's all so unclear.
You need to CYA. If you want thoughts on how, please don't hesitate to email.
ReplyDeleteGotta fight crazy with smart.
Hugs,
mouse
Dear HS,
ReplyDeleteYes, what mouse said. I'm here with ideas too.
And holding you tight in my thoughts and prayers.
aisha
ok... that's some scary business. When you talked to him, how did he sound? How exactly does he think he's going to "out" you? If he's so far away physically, is there a way for you to change what needs to be changed (emails, cell number, locks, etc.) and that should do it?
ReplyDeleteI don't know where you are, but do you have any friends that are in law enforcement there? Maybe you could explain part of your situation to them and get their feedback.
We are really all here for you. If there's anything you need us to do from our end, at least as far as I'm concerned, please let me know and I'll do it!
You are in my thoughts!!!
Hugs
SBS
That sounds scary. Would he do it? I guess maybe you don't know, but you must have a sense.
ReplyDeleteI think the suggestion to change emails, passwords, that kind of thing is good advice. Cover your ass as Mouse advised.
Gosh he's turning out to be a dick isn't he?
faithful...I want him gone, but I do feel I have to do it in such a way that he feels that it is his decision, so to reduce the risks. Its just a matter of being able to get away safely. And then I will disappear off his radar. Thanks so much for your support
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Mindset......I have changed all access to my emails etc, he has no access to any of them at all now, nothing at all. I just hope that he will come to understand what he has done and not do it to anyone else. Thank you for your help and advice
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Conina, I wish i knew, he has gone all quiet now...its a bit like sitting in a room with a bomb!
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mouse...I am CMA as much as I can! Thank you
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aisha, as always, thank youx
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SBS, Thank you so much for your support...I am not sure how he is feeling or really how he sounded. I had a snatched conversation with him when I finally accessed my phone and had a free moment to call him. He told me he was angry when he sent the messages, but I don't feel that is any justification. The police here are not those sort of police at all! If I need anything...you will hear me shouting loudly from far away land. Thank you
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sin, your " Gosh he's turning out to be a dick isn't he?" made me laugh out loud...yes he is.
ReplyDeleteTime will tell, at present I would just like to pull the doona over my head...except i would expire in the heat:)
HSxx